Step 03 · Meet safely
A calm meeting
A spark is lovely. Calm is a must.
Ground rules
What every meeting rests on — for two or for a group, the first time or the tenth.
Adults only
AbsoLove is for people aged 18 and over. If you are not sure how old someone is, ask before you meet.
Say what you expect, up front
A meeting is not a promise of anything more. Say what you hope for and ask the same: being honest about intentions protects you both.
Mutual, never pushy
Silence and politeness are not yet a yes. If someone says no or does not answer, do not push for a reply.
Every step is its own choice
Agreeing to chat is not agreeing to meet, and meeting is not a promise of the next step. One “no” is enough, and anyone can change their mind at any moment.
Someone else’s privacy is a boundary too
Do not post or forward another person’s messages, photos or personal details without their permission.
A first meeting without needless risk
A public place, your own way home and someone close who knows the plan. Never give new acquaintances money, text-message codes or ID.
Before you meet
Six simple habits. They do not get in the way of a spark — they give it room.
- Meet somewhere public the first time — and in daylight, if that feels calmer.
- Plan your own way there and back. There is no need to share your home address.
- Let someone close know where you will be and who with: send them the plan.
- Never give money, text-message codes, ID or passwords to someone you’ve just met — before or after you meet.
- You can leave at any moment, and you do not need a reason.
- Drinks are up to you: every AbsoLove idea works without alcohol.
Plan for a friend
In a group
A group feels calmer when the simple things are agreed in advance.
- Agree in advance how everyone is getting home — especially if the evening ends late.
- Not drinking is a normal choice, not a reason for questions.
- A +1 is someone the person inviting them actually knows. And a +1 does not bring anyone else.
- If someone at the table crosses a line, tell the organiser — or leave together.
What a scam looks like
A scam rarely calls itself one. More often it looks like care, urgency or a good deal.
Tickets via a link
- How to spot it
- A new acquaintance invites you to a film or a concert and sends a link to a “cinema website” where you pay for tickets by card.
- What to do
- Do not pay through links someone sends you. Buy tickets on a site you find through a search, or at the box office. If the money has gone, call your bank.
A courier with flowers
- How to spot it
- A “courier” calls: someone has sent you flowers or a gift, and the delivery needs a code from a text message.
- What to do
- Never read out a code from a text — not to a courier, not to “your bank”. Hang up: a real delivery can be checked by the number on the company’s official site.
Money, urgently
- How to spot it
- After a few days of chatting, the person suddenly has an emergency — a hospital, a broken car, a blocked card — and asks to borrow money “just until tomorrow”.
- What to do
- Do not send money to someone you have not met in person, however convincing the story. Sympathy does not have to come with a transfer.
Investments and crypto
- How to spot it
- The person you are chatting with mentions how well they do on an exchange and offers to teach you, or to “invest together”.
- What to do
- New acquaintances and investments do not mix. Do not install apps or sign up anywhere through their links, do not send money — and report the profile in the service.
A prepaid booking
- How to spot it
- A new acquaintance picks a café, an escape room or a workshop and asks you to prepay “for the booking” through their link.
- What to do
- Check the place: find its official site or phone number through a search and book there. Do not trust payment links from a chat.
Blackmail with photos
- How to spot it
- Someone threatens to send your photos or messages to people you know unless you pay.
- What to do
- Do not pay: a first payment usually brings a second demand. Save the chat and screenshots, go to the police and report the profile in the service where you talked.
A real person does not need your codes or your money to meet you.
Trick or not?
Seven situations from chats and meetings. Decide what it is, then see the answer. Not a test: nobody keeps score.
Situation 1
Before the meeting a courier calls: a bouquet is on its way to you, you just need to read out the code from a text message.
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: A trick
A code from a text message opens your bank or your account. A real delivery never needs it — hang up.
Situation 2
After a week of chatting, the person suggests you “invest together” in crypto: they already know how it works and will show you.
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: A trick
This is how investment scams begin: the warmth of a chat is used to move your money onto someone else’s platform. New acquaintances and investments do not mix.
Situation 3
You are invited to meet in a café in the city centre during the day and asked whether the place works for you.
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: Fine
A public place, daylight and a question about your comfort — this is what a calm start looks like.
Situation 4
You get a message: “Buy us two tickets through this link, I’ll send you half later.”
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: A trick
A link like this usually leads to a fake site: the money goes, the tickets never come. Buy tickets on a site you find through a search, or at the box office.
Situation 5
Before meeting, you are asked for a photo of your passport — “to make sure you’re not a bot”.
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: A trick
Getting to know someone never needs documents, and they can be used to open loans and accounts in your name. A short video call or a meeting in a public place is enough to see the person is real.
Situation 6
Before the meeting, you send someone close where you will be, who with and when you will check in.
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: Fine
It is ordinary care, not distrust: people do it on the tenth meeting too.
Situation 7
Right after you meet on AbsoLive, the person keeps pressing you to move to another messenger.
What do you think? See the answer
Answer: A reason to be careful
Not a scam in itself, but worth a closer look: reporting and blocking work only inside AbsoLive. There is no need to rush the move — especially when someone is rushing you.
If something is wrong
During a meeting or after it, step by step.
- If you are in danger right now, call 112 or your local emergency number.
- You can leave at any moment — no explanations, no apologies.
- Tell someone close what happened: deciding what to do next is easier together.
- On AbsoLive you can report and block someone — in the chat and on their page.
- The AbsoLive rules are on abso.live. If someone broke them, report it: that protects others too.